http://spiritualinquiry.com/articles/dealing-with-loneliness/ Open-Minded Inquiry About Spirituality and Self-Improvement Sun, 05 Feb 2012 05:45:49 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 http://spiritualinquiry.com/articles/dealing-with-loneliness/#comment-671 Holi Thu, 24 Jun 2010 02:53:02 +0000 http://spiritualinquiry.com/blog/2007/12/07/dealing-with-loneliness/#comment-671 Great advice to advise people to focus on the opportunities to alleviate loneliness! There are many ways to reach out, and if we reach out with a sense of interconnectedness, rather than lack, finding true friends & creating an extended family-like support system should come more naturally! Great advice to advise people to focus on the opportunities to alleviate loneliness! There are many ways to reach out, and if we reach out with a sense of interconnectedness, rather than lack, finding true friends & creating an extended family-like support system should come more naturally!

]]> http://spiritualinquiry.com/articles/dealing-with-loneliness/#comment-670 Kate Tue, 05 Jan 2010 23:23:11 +0000 http://spiritualinquiry.com/blog/2007/12/07/dealing-with-loneliness/#comment-670 I've had to move every couple years for the past 10 years and it's been difficult. My husband is in the Army and I've been a SAHM. It's been hard to maintain and build friendships b/c we've moved so frequently. I do find myself feeling alone. It's almost like I'm in a prison and I'm screaming but no one hears me. I feel as if God has abandoned me. As humans, we naturally desire human connection and when those desires and needs aren't met, there's an empty feeling. I almost feel as though this experience of being alone for so long has made me paranoid of everything. Is this a personality disorder? I try to busy myself by volunteering at my childrens' school, meeting my husband for lunch. I find that I do most things alone and I'm not sure if I'm normal. I'm baffled by this existence and question whether or not if it's normal. I’ve had to move every couple years for the past 10 years and it’s been difficult. My husband is in the Army and I’ve been a SAHM. It’s been hard to maintain and build friendships b/c we’ve moved so frequently. I do find myself feeling alone. It’s almost like I’m in a prison and I’m screaming but no one hears me. I feel as if God has abandoned me. As humans, we naturally desire human connection and when those desires and needs aren’t met, there’s an empty feeling. I almost feel as though this experience of being alone for so long has made me paranoid of everything. Is this a personality disorder? I try to busy myself by volunteering at my childrens’ school, meeting my husband for lunch. I find that I do most things alone and I’m not sure if I’m normal.
I’m baffled by this existence and question whether or not if it’s normal.

]]> http://spiritualinquiry.com/articles/dealing-with-loneliness/#comment-668 Joanne Tue, 17 Nov 2009 22:13:11 +0000 http://spiritualinquiry.com/blog/2007/12/07/dealing-with-loneliness/#comment-668 this was insightful; i moved across the country, away from familiar people and places, and recently have reconnected mildly; there's some pain there though; you can't revisit people who inadvertently hurt you or turned away just because it is comfortable; there's new experiences waiting i guess; sometimes it's ok to just know that you might be better off alone this was insightful; i moved across the country, away from familiar people and places, and recently have reconnected mildly; there’s some pain there though; you can’t revisit people who inadvertently hurt you or turned away just because it is comfortable; there’s new experiences waiting i guess; sometimes it’s ok to just know that you might be better off alone

]]> http://spiritualinquiry.com/articles/dealing-with-loneliness/#comment-638 admin Sun, 10 Aug 2008 19:10:56 +0000 http://spiritualinquiry.com/blog/2007/12/07/dealing-with-loneliness/#comment-638 Certainly some of us have many more people in our lives than others. However, the important point is not so much the number of people we have closeness with but rather our attitude towards them. If we learn to value and appreciate a smile exchanged with a janitor, or take the time to say hello to a homeless person on the street, we are actively cultivating compassion within ourselves. Initially, such contacts may seem woefully inadequate, but with practice, and with a focus on giving rather than receiving, we discover that we are more connected than we may realize. It is likely that such an attitude will also lead us to finding and developing more and more meaningful relationships, provided that we remember to be grateful for what we have instead of yearning for what we lack. Certainly some of us have many more people in our lives than others. However, the important point is not so much the number of people we have closeness with but rather our attitude towards them. If we learn to value and appreciate a smile exchanged with a janitor, or take the time to say hello to a homeless person on the street, we are actively cultivating compassion within ourselves. Initially, such contacts may seem woefully inadequate, but with practice, and with a focus on giving rather than receiving, we discover that we are more connected than we may realize. It is likely that such an attitude will also lead us to finding and developing more and more meaningful relationships, provided that we remember to be grateful for what we have instead of yearning for what we lack.

]]> http://spiritualinquiry.com/articles/dealing-with-loneliness/#comment-637 tdemoisy Tue, 05 Aug 2008 23:22:11 +0000 http://spiritualinquiry.com/blog/2007/12/07/dealing-with-loneliness/#comment-637 The end of the article assumes that there are all these people we have closeness with and that we can rely on and be thankful for. This is not necessarily true for many. The end of the article assumes that there are all these people we have closeness with and that we can rely on and be thankful for. This is not necessarily true for many.

]]> http://spiritualinquiry.com/articles/dealing-with-loneliness/#comment-120 jacob Sun, 03 Feb 2008 06:49:49 +0000 http://spiritualinquiry.com/blog/2007/12/07/dealing-with-loneliness/#comment-120 I agree. I have been really strugglin' lately, but your post has given me much to thank about. truly inspiring. I agree. I have been really strugglin’ lately, but your post has given me much to thank about. truly inspiring.

]]> http://spiritualinquiry.com/articles/dealing-with-loneliness/#comment-101 Tyler Fri, 01 Feb 2008 05:56:10 +0000 http://spiritualinquiry.com/blog/2007/12/07/dealing-with-loneliness/#comment-101 thank you that was honestly inspirational thank you that was honestly inspirational

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